Adopting healthier choices over the long term involves changing how we think. If we’re to make progress in getting fit, we have to identify self-limiting beliefs that hold us back.
And where do self-defeating thoughts originate? I’m convinced that mischievous pisky fairies whisper messages in my ear, especially when I am hungry, angry, lonely or tired (HALT). These tiny elflike spirits (who dress in green tights and dance in the moonlight to the music of frogs and crickets) are the source of my pesky thoughts.
Here are the piskies’ names and the discouraging messages they murmur in my ear:
The Historian: You’ve tried to lose weight before and failed. What makes you think you can succeed this time?
The Dawdler: The New Year is just around the corner. Why not enjoy yourself now and start later?
The Detractor: It’s not possible for ordinary people like you to lose weight and get fit. You don’t have the ability.
The Pessimist: What’s the use in getting your hopes up, only to see them dashed? At your age, it’s not realistic to think you can change.
The Researcher: Studies show that most people who lose weight end up regaining it, so why bother?
The Jailer: Sure, you hate how you look and feel, but you’re far too depressed to take action. You need to wait until you feel better.
The Excuse Maker: You were going to exercise today, but you had a killer day at work.
The Justifier: You don’t look any heavier than a lot of your friends and family members.
The Safety Officer: Don’t waste your hard-earned money on health-conscious food you won’t like or eat. Plus, you’ll probably hurt yourself exercising. Why not play it safe?
The Naysayer: Sure, other people are focusing on getting fit, but they have more self-discipline than you do.
The Temptress: Go ahead and indulge! You’ve been so good about following your own rules—you are entitled to make an exception.
Realistically speaking, I’ll probably never completely silence the piskies. What I can do, though, is minimize their destructiveness by replacing their negative ideas with ones that better serve my interests.
Here’s how I learned to manage my piskies. When I hear one speak, I write the statement on an index card. On the opposite side of the card, I write a positive version of the same comment.
For instance, when a pisky told me I was too old to get fit, I posted the statement on a card. Then, on the opposite side, I wrote, “Fitness is available at every age, size and time of life.” From that point forward, every time I heard the pisky’s comment, I consciously replaced it with my own perspective.
What may surprise you is that the number of piskies is finite. At most, you’ll probably discover two dozen who whisper to you. Once you’ve captured each, you can review your positive messages on a regular basis. Like memorizing homework, over time you will find that you have internalized your own positive perspectives.
As you undertake this work, remember that you aren’t alone. None of us are free from self-limiting beliefs. At one time or another, all of us have to deal with piskies. But we can still have fun. Indeed, we can engage our imagination and, in the process, lightheartedly reinforce our ongoing commitment to fitness.
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